They might not be able to determine what you are lying about, or why you are doing it, but they can sense it is happening.
Why are we lying in the first place? Is it,
1. We don’t trust them to be able to deal with the information?
2. Not the right time to pass on the true state of affairs?
3. We don’t want to deal with the drama and fall out?
4. We are trying to make ourselves look and sound better than we really are?
5. We don’t know the facts yet and are replacing them with assumptions?
In any case I believe it is a gesture of respect to our friends, peers and loved ones to tell the truth. Facts are facts at the end of the day, and bad news doesn’t get better with time…
We have a responsibility to tell our peers what they need to hear, not what they want to hear – it is the truest and most timeless sign of respect.
The challenge comes in trying to communicate facts in a way that is respectful, courteous and authentic. Delivered at the right time and at the right place.
Lying says more about our own lack of integrity than nearly any other gesture.